So if I tick you at the wrong place, please let me know. Or much better whenever you are about to get mad or sad. Always remember to get back to glad state.
In Arabic this is called husnuzon:
Husnuzon is an Arabic word, which have the same meaning to Positive thought. We need to have a positive thought to all people, either the one we just know or the person who are really closed to us. Husnuzon can tighten our relationship as a person.
Just like what I write to Els, Even Tongue Got Accidentally Bitten. That is the nature of intimacy. Worst still if both parties are very passionate about each other.
What we don't want to have is the reinforcement of conflicting ideals. It has to be a win-win or no deal. Lizzie and I argued too. For example initially she wanted a manual car. Lizzie is a very rigid thinker. She is what I termed as Newton's daughter. I am Einstein's boy through and through (you probably figured it out on your own).
I cannot even open up the subject because she considered it her final word. Being Newton's daughter, her word is law. No rational reasoning was able to convince her. It was very strenuous for me. If we get a manual, I will be taken back 15 years behind.
That is one. The other one is I wanted to let the Employee Provident Fund earn interest and use the interest to pay for the house. At the end of the term, we still have the principal and *a[t] pay for the house. She was against the idea of borrowing. She insisted we pay out the housing loan and blew away the principal.
* I know, it doesn't make sense isn't it?
So that was two strikes against me. What I did, instead of arguing with her, I AGREED with her decision on the house. Miraculously she herself decided to go for automatic. Not only that, instead of a 1.0 cc, she herself suggested for a 1.5 cc. Not only that she agreed with the Advance model.
Now Sarah, my dear wife that is how we manage to stay married for 29 years. It's not easy for a fuzzy thinker to deal with an absolute thinker baby.
I intend to stay married to you for eternity. The best I can do is to make the rules simple. As I said, its the simple people that can solve complex problems. Complex people cannot even solve a simple problem.
First and foremost based on the O.P.E.N. Correlation, we need to have a big heart. We must be ready to forgive, forget and forgo.
Otherwise as the saying goes, nobody ever died of a snake bite, its the poison that kills.
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Now since we are at the topic of managing thoughts. I like to highlight to you that EVERYBODY has to fight his/her own little dragons. I know you have issues you are struggling with too. As long as we li[k]e on planet earth we all have problems. The only people with no problems are those 6 feet under.
Understand this model well:
It's not what happens to you, it's the MEANING that you give to it. That's why you got to have chutzpah. The will to win overrides any form of adversity. Personally I think Fuzzy Thinking is the best approach to life.
Let me tell you a story:
Once the Government of Sri Lanka wrote to World Bank. The letter was short and concise:
We need an Economic Adviser. Please send one with just one hand.
World Bank was puzzled. They wrote back:
Why do you need an adviser with one hand?
Government of Sri Lanka replied:
We don't want an adviser who advises us on one hand to take one option and then on the other hand to take another option LMAO ROTFLMAO
You get the joke honey?
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Hey Sarah, you OK honey?
Alright... At the end of the day, at the crux of it, everything goes back to the attitude you take towards life. That's pretty much it.
Attitude however is governs by beliefs and values.
My attitude is I don't give a shit. My values is Shinu Kikai O Motomo. My belief is a Warrior Walks Alone.
So here is something you want to consider:
What's the matter baby? You are so quiet. You don't like this topic?
OK enough of Knowledge Sharing. Lets talk about something else.
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